I’ve always hated it when I heard someone or lyrics that goes saying “Is it because I’m not as beautiful as I was, that you are leaving me now?” Eww. That grosses me out. You know the context: a guy leaving his partner for a woman who is usually prettier and/or younger than the woman who’s questioning out. It always leaves me wondering.
Isn’t relationship a two-way street? Well, over time, the woman gets older and fatter and saggier. But hey, so does the guy! Why have I never heard a guy ask the same question? A guy– even though he got receding hairline, his tummy sticks out as hell, his face gets all wrinkly– will always think that he is okay and he deserves more and more pretty girls.
To me as a woman, the answer to this problem is clear. We, women should not try to look good for our partners. Why should we? Our partners, because they are men, are unlikely to try to look good for us. Chances are they will always be self-satisfied with their appearance (however ugly they get). HOWEVER, we should always look good no matter what. Why? So that when they had the guts to leave us, the second they did it, we wouldn’t be sorry. Instead, we would be perfectly ready to be back on the market again!
Sadly this is unavoidable for women (to keep looking presentable all the time) since men is a superficial creature. The look goes first on their list. If you still want to be with a guy, you need to attract him first. To attract him, you have to have the look. I’m not saying that it’s the most important thing a man see in a woman, BUT IT IS NONETHELESS IMPORTANT. It’s only a matter of magnitude that varies from person to person.
Or, if you think it’s degrading to try to look good to men, you don’t have to. You will still be doing okay (: